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Do you lie to yourself?

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Lying to yourself

Do you lie to yourself? Why do you do that? If you lie to yourself, then you probably lie to others – as well. And as a result your life becomes a mess, and you start blaming others for the same mess you’ve created. Funny, isn’t it?

The worst is that you know it, but you keep repeating – this lie that you are not lying to yourself – endlessly, because you fear that if you’d stop others would discover that you’ve been a liar all along. That’s your biggest fear. But what you don’t know is that you might discover who you are – if you’d stop lying to yourself – and this is something you fear as well.

Persona non grata

Understandable, since you have built this personality, your PERSONA, and you’ve invested much effort, and what are you supposed to do now? To give it all up? To make a complete idiot out of yourself? In front of all of these people who know you for what you ARE – now?

You can’t do that; it’s too risky. After all, what would be your gain? You’d be ridiculed by lots of people, perhaps your family, friends, spouse – it’s not worth it. The problem is also that you’ve attached lots of believes and convictions to your persona, and you need to keep your consistency. I mean what would people think? That you’ve been lying?

The consequences are disastrous; you might lose everything you’ve ever believed in. Your reputation, your image – just everything you’ve worked for so hard. It takes a lot of courage to cut off these ties – you know that – and besides all other obligations and problems that you have, you will surely not add another to it.

Why do you lie to yourself?

But where did it all start? Did your father catch you with some candies which you weren’t supposed to be eating? An opportunity to get better grades? A shortcut to more money? A better income? Do you vote for somebody to keep your lie going?

Do you deliberately ignore a truth to maintain your position even if that may cause huge difficulties for others? Do you consciously ignore obvious facts and start relativising them, so that your story still makes sense?

There are several facts which you ignore: not lying is not a matter of just being a ‘bad boy’ or ‘bad girl’ – you are losing your time while believing the opposite. In the long run, it catches you, and you will have to do it all over again. I’ve written about this thing a few times already. Telling the truth is a time-saver. It is practical and in support of what you are doing.

It is a natural law, and when you break it – you are in trouble. You know that; you feel it in your gut, but you keep doing it. Well, in the end, it is your choice. Believe it or not, there are people who die happy with a feeling of content – there is a reason for it.


In my subscriber, I was linked to this interesting new youtube channel – Ditch Your Box. It inspired me to write this post.



What do you think about this? Do you lie to yourself? Do you know somebody who lies to himself or herself and how they handle it? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.


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